But it happens sometimes. So when it does, I tend to do things that make me feel comforted, even human. The parts of the body that still work take care of the parts that don't. Like today - I had myself a couple of bowls of soup and a few crackers, then went to bed with a heating pad to try to get rid of the bone-deep chill I felt. I even got a little sleep - albeit broken by the banes of my indoor "at-home" existence: telemarketers and my daughter's cat.
The chill, however, has decided to return. So I am wearing my scarf, and have a couple of big fluffy towels lying across my shoulders and my legs as I type.
In my mind I have a picture-memory of a time when I was about 13. It was the dead of winter. Our house was not all that well insulated so we compensated with lots of blankets and quilts. And when we got up in the morning, we made sure to put our socks on before our feet touched the floor. It was COLD.
We had an oil stove in the kitchen. Mom would make the fire in the oil stove before we got up, and once the heat was up a bit, she opened the oven door, spread out a newspaper on the open oven door and pulled a couple of chairs up beside it. My brother and I would come into the kitchen wearing our sweaters or long-sleeved shirts, jeans and thick socks, grab a cup of tea, and sit on the chairs with our sock feet resting on the newspaper - to warm our feet.
It was the closest thing to a fireplace we were going to get. But the heat soaked into us and made the howling wind outside not seem so loud or forbidding.
Only 30 minutes later, I would have to go to the bus stop and shiver in the cold, but the memory of that warm spot in the morning helped get me through the dark, frigid days of winter.
I can't ever remember LIKING winter. I like it less and less as I get older; but, the memories associated with beating the cold really stick with me. I remember one time sitting in the apartment of another brother once - I would have been about 19 or so - he had a fireplace. He put on some soft music; there was always music at his place. My fiancé and I sat on the hearth in front of the little fireplace with our cups of hot chocolate and watched the fire together as the music played. It was cozy. It was romantic.
Why am I talking about this? I guess it's to beat the cold. To remember warmer times. To remind myself that sickness - and winter - doesn't last forever.
I think I feel a little warmer now.
This is so funny Judy, I started writing a blog post today about hating the cold weather and how February seems to be the hardest month for depression. Going to a place where everyone's heart was warm tonight seemed to snap me right out of it, at least for a little while.
ReplyDeleteHope you are feeling better soon.
Lisa
Thanks Lisa!
ReplyDeleteWinter is so relentless (sometimes I feel like poor old Sam McGee in that Robert Service poem); we need all the warmth we can get. Yet physical warmth (the weather, even a hot water bottle) is so fickle.
Thank you for being such a good friend.