He considers himself the last of his line. His offspring includes only girls. And he's grateful for that.
He thinks that it's unfair to perpetuate the kind of heartache that has been so much a part of his family for generations, passed down from father to son.
In his determination to do everything the opposite of the way things were done to him, he has instead become the first of his kind - the first to be kind, the first to actually leave a legacy worth remembering, fond memories to look back on. He may feel unworthy ... but so often, great men do feel that way.
He was the first in his bloodline of the last hundred years or so, who actually chose his children over his career. He dropped things he wanted to do - things that would wait until he got to them - so that he could sit down on the floor and play games with them, listen to their concerns (no matter how small), care about them, or thank them for their help, no matter how great or small their contribution. His subconscious motto was (and is) "People before things." To this day, his children know they can go to him with their problems, trust him with their feelings, and he'll listen to them without judging. He listens because he was never listened to by his own dad and he knows how important it is for kids to feel loved and accepted, to have a safe place to land.
He personally considers Father's Day a useless holiday. Yet if anyone deserves to be honoured on Father's Day and every other day of the year, he does. He raised himself and his younger siblings. He had no model to go by, nobody to look up to, but he's been a rock, even more so the last three years or so. And his wife and children look up to him and would go to the mat for him... any day of the week. He's a wonderful life partner ... and a fantastic dad.
I just wanted him to know that. Happy Father's Day, honey.
He thinks that it's unfair to perpetuate the kind of heartache that has been so much a part of his family for generations, passed down from father to son.
In his determination to do everything the opposite of the way things were done to him, he has instead become the first of his kind - the first to be kind, the first to actually leave a legacy worth remembering, fond memories to look back on. He may feel unworthy ... but so often, great men do feel that way.
He personally considers Father's Day a useless holiday. Yet if anyone deserves to be honoured on Father's Day and every other day of the year, he does. He raised himself and his younger siblings. He had no model to go by, nobody to look up to, but he's been a rock, even more so the last three years or so. And his wife and children look up to him and would go to the mat for him... any day of the week. He's a wonderful life partner ... and a fantastic dad.
I just wanted him to know that. Happy Father's Day, honey.
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